Taking a little power back..

I made it very clear to him when he left that if he wanted this to end in divorce that he would have to file because this was not what I wanted. Then, the thought of sitting around waiting for the papers became unbearable. I did not want to live through that moment of getting something that officially says your marriage is over.

The moment I decided that I would be the one to file the papers was after a conversation I had with him. As I have said before most of the conversations I had with him were me screaming at him and this one was no different. I had found out that he had taken the homewrecker to a family dinner at his mom's house. I don't know why I got so upset. I guess it was because my place had been taken, already. His mom had only contacted me by email and that was only to give me advice on where to go for counseling. Ummm...don't ya think your cheating ass son needs the counseling?? I called him and just laid into him. I was so angry and of course he was being so callous about it. At some point he said to me, she is a part of my life now and she will be a part of the boys' life. I went from anger to protective mode in 3 seconds flat. I thought, over my dead body. After I got off the phone I found a lawyer and set up an appointment. There was absolutely no way in hell I was going to let him bring that person into the boys life. I filed for divorce.